Traditional Marriage Doesn't Work

I bet that title pissed some of you off. Please slow down and read the contents of this blog before judging. I just wanted to make sure I got you to this page so as to read my whole message. If you guys saw my twitter blow up this morning, yes I am mad, maybe more frustrated than mad but certainly all fired up. Love me or hate me one thing you guys know is that I am a passionate person. I have very strong opinions and fight feverishly to help people find their true selves and  to have the courage to live life on their own, liberated terms. Trying to live up to the standards your folks or society have pressed upon you makes no one happy. Sadly some people leave this amazing planet having never gotten to know themselves, nor understanding that they had a purpose. Our purpose? it's simple…. live the life you were given! Too simple for you? Ok let's dig deeper.


I do not personally know you. I have no idea if you like the opera or football, travel by plane or care, being alone or in groups. So, how silly for me to TELL you that you SHOULD by a ticket to NY to see the opera this weekend and stay over night in a hotel by yourself. There would only be one reason I would do this. Because that would be what I would enjoy, not you. It is very presumptuous for me to tell you what to do being that I do not really know you. As a society we do this to "marriage". A clear definition was written hundreds of years ago about what marriage is and should be. As a society we have evolved however the marriage definition has not. And we can see by the shocking numbers of marriages that end in divorce just how good this tradition is working.


It is my firm belief no one can tell anyone what will make them happy other than themselves. Wow that was a tongue twister.  As a society we have been trained to ostracize "different". Who defined "normal" and how it has managed to become so important to us still baffles me. I have some amazing articles in my site that I have compiled on the history of monogamy, Sex and relationships, etc. Very forth telling and intriguing. Most of the research only confirms my own theories. Not all, but most. I am by no means a nay sayer of monogamy. I simply do not believe it works for the majority of marriages. Just look at the facts. Divorce rates are ridiculous.  Infidelity is on the rise. We have all fallen into the systematic process of date, marry, monogamy, too hard, too much work, divorce. This sucks! Marriage should be fun! It's can and should be a lifetime of adventure with your soulmate. When true deep passionate trusting love exists… our natural non monogamous feelings can perfectly fit into a fabulous marriage. getting some "strange" is a natural desire. Of course we are told to fight any urge to be with someone other than your spouse after marriage. Your a better person for fighting and beating the urge. Says who? That is absurd! If you and your mate are solid and love one another completely with your hearts, why would adding spice and fun to that coupling damage? That's the point… it wouldn't. But you see, if we all figured this out, what oh what would the media have to show during sweeps week? Everyone likes to feel "ok" with their life. They may not be happy but when news stories about "adulterers, and cheaters" come across the tube people can get on their fake pedestals and smirk "oh I am better than them." lol! Think again. More than likely you have cheating in your glass house marriage. The media uses negative words to portray a beautiful, honest loving lifestyle. I Never once heard nightline  (watch video here) use the words I just did. On the contrary, they told the story but were very strategic to insert "adultery" "infidelity" " cheating" to describe what this loving couple was "participating" in. What a joke. They completely missed the point of "swinging" and made it into what the "normal" sec of society WANTS the Lifestyle to be. I think Monogamy can work for some. Few, but some. It can be beautiful, just as open marriages can be. Judge not, figure out your own way, and then start living that way.


Peace!
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Brandi

I have to share this wine with you all. It has to be one of the best I have had in a very long time under $100. You owe it to yourself to try it as long as you like chewy reds. This is NOT a  beginers wine. One of the most robust and complex, but smooth! Absolutely delicious!

Product Notes:
"A very ambitious style, with dark, exotic toast leading the way for fig sauce, currant paste and Turkish coffee flavors that manage to stay pure and driven. The long, very polished finish let a mineral note echo. Carmenère and Petit Verdot. Drink now through 2011. 11,000 cases made. –JM" -Rated 91, Wine Spectator


"The 2006 Purple Angel is composed of 92% Carmenere and 8% Petit Verdot (an increasingly important blending grape in Chile) aged for 18 months in new French oak before bottling without filtration. Purple/black in color, it has a splendid perfume of toasty oak, pencil lead, incense, sage, blueberry, and blackberry. Layered, bordering on opulent, this full-throttle wine has gobs of fruit, succulent flavors, and a long, pure finish. Cellar it for 5-7 years and drink it from 2015 to 2026. It is another example of just how good Carmenere can be when grown in the right terroir with extended hang-time. Aurelio Montes remains one of Chile's great innovators and quality leaders. His latest releases are first class from entry level to the top of the portfolio." -Rated 93, Robert Parker's Wine Advocate


"The nose of black olive, grilled beef and black fruit is made elegant via a floral perfume, and overall this big-boned Carmenère is beautifully balanced and loaded with cola, blackberry, licorice and chocolate. Dark as night on the finish, and ageable for a few years. — M.S. (9/1/2009)" -Rated 92, Wine Enthusiast

"Glass-staining ruby. Pungent scents of red and dark berry preserves are complicated by musky herbs, cracked pepper and potpourri, with a suave undercurrent of oak spices. Sweet, pliant blackberry and candied cherry flavors are framed by velvety tannins and given a tangy edge by a bright minerality that builds on the finish. This will reward patience but is pretty delicious right now." -Rated 92, Stephen Tanzer's International Wine Cellar

Product Notes:
"A very ambitious style, with dark, exotic toast leading the way for fig sauce, currant paste and Turkish coffee flavors that manage to stay pure and driven. The long, very polished finish let a mineral note echo. Carmenère and Petit Verdot. Drink now through 2011. 11,000 cases made. –JM" -Rated 91, Wine Spectator


"The 2006 Purple Angel is composed of 92% Carmenere and 8% Petit Verdot (an increasingly important blending grape in Chile) aged for 18 months in new French oak before bottling without filtration. Purple/black in color, it has a splendid perfume of toasty oak, pencil lead, incense, sage, blueberry, and blackberry. Layered, bordering on opulent, this full-throttle wine has gobs of fruit, succulent flavors, and a long, pure finish. Cellar it for 5-7 years and drink it from 2015 to 2026. It is another example of just how good Carmenere can be when grown in the right terroir with extended hang-time. Aurelio Montes remains one of Chile's great innovators and quality leaders. His latest releases are first class from entry level to the top of the portfolio." -Rated 93, Robert Parker's Wine Advocate


"The nose of black olive, grilled beef and black fruit is made elegant via a floral perfume, and overall this big-boned Carmenère is beautifully balanced and loaded with cola, blackberry, licorice and chocolate. Dark as night on the finish, and ageable for a few years. — M.S. (9/1/2009)" -Rated 92, Wine Enthusiast

"Glass-staining ruby. Pungent scents of red and dark berry preserves are complicated by musky herbs, cracked pepper and potpourri, with a suave undercurrent of oak spices. Sweet, pliant blackberry and candied cherry flavors are framed by velvety tannins and given a tangy edge by a bright minerality that builds on the finish. This will reward patience but is pretty delicious right now." -Rated 92, Stephen Tanzer's International Wine Cellar

94 Points - Robert Parker's Wine Advocate: "The 2007 Purple Angel is a blend of Carmenere and Petit Verdot that might be the only competition for Terrunyo’s Carmin de Peumo for top Carmenere-based wine in Chile. Purple/black in color, it displays a splendid nose of exotic spices, herbs, lavender, incense, blueberry, and blackberry. Dense, chewy, and opulent on the palate, this is a rich, already complex offering that is meant strictly for pleasure-seekers. Enjoy it from 2013-2022." (12/2010)

91 Points - Wine Spectator Magazine: "Broad and ripe, displaying layers of boysenberry, plum and fig fruit all held together by notes of maduro tobacco, spice cake and smoked applewood. The long, rich finish lets a dark licorice note play out. Drink now through 2011. 2,050 cases imported." –JM (10/15/2010)

93+ Points - Robert Parker's Wine Advocate (2006 vintage): "The 2006 Purple Angel is composed of 92% Carmenere and 8% Petit Verdot (an increasingly important blending grape in Chile) aged for 18 months in new French oak before bottling without filtration. Purple/black in color, it has a splendid perfume of toasty oak, pencil lead, incense, sage, blueberry, and blackberry. Layered, bordering on opulent, this full-throttle wine has gobs of fruit, succulent flavors, and a long, pure finish. Cellar it for 5-7 years and drink it from 2015 to 2026. It is another example of just how good Carmenere can be when grown in the right terroir with extended hang-time.

Aurelio Montes remains one of Chile's great innovators and quality leaders. His latest releases are first class from entry level to the top of the portfolio." -Jay Miller (6/2009)

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Brandi

While my feet were soaking my sweet new friend with the incredibly strong hands continued to work my neck and shoulders working all the way down to my lower back. A few minutes later she went back to my feet. After thoroughly drying them with a fresh white warm towel she had me move back onto the bed so my head was resting perfectly on a soft pillow and my feet were at the end of the bed. Each foot was lighten to be placed back down on a fluffy silk pillow. My eyes were covered with a light towel and the foot and leg massage began. Knuckles into the soles of my feet had me melting into the bed. 10 minutes of pure focus on each foot and then she began a thai "pressure point" style massage on my thighs. I am not a shy person at all but I have to tell you I did smirk a bit under my towel as her hands pressed down just centimeters from my hooha. I was only a tad nervous because this room, as I mentioned in the previous post… was very public. I tensed up a little and then was like , screw it…. She can do whatever she wants… this is awesome! LOL

45 minutes later, with crusty drained up drool on the corners of my mouth…. I was awoken to  "ok, ok now you go with friend." I sleepily followed my masseuse down a narrow hallway. A linen cloth was pulled back and I was motioned to enter after removing my shoes. I was handed a white sheet and told to remove all clothing except my underwear and poof like that she was gone. I did as I was told (hehe) and laid down on my tummy and waited. Seconds later a soft little voice said "you ready? I come in". Ready I was! My eyes were already closed and the no time was wasted. As she entered the room her hands were already on my legs. Her tiny body was all over the bed and me. It was amazing. She must have been a gymnast! She used her weight and maneuvered around the massage bed like a nimble ballerina pressing on my muscles and releasing with swiftness and perfect accuracy. As the pain set in she was already applying relief. Intense yet totally relaxing. I am almost in a total slumber when my leg got yanked out from under the sheet and whipped over my head. OMG I had no idea I could even do that! She did some moves on me that hurt, but stretched so good, and made me laugh all at the same time.

I was sad to see my hour and masseuse vanish like a fart in the wind:( It was almost dream like… she entered and left with me never even seeing her. I will most definitely be back for another "thai massage" experience next time I am on LA. Everyone should experience this pain/ pleasure at least once in their lifetime, you won't regret it!

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Brandi

It's not all sex! I know there is a ton of it for sure but some of the other experiences I have along the way are just as awesome. SO you guys know I have worked striated since arriving on the 23rd. I am doing amazingly well but surely started to slow down a tad. My muscles are screaming a bit and mentally I am a bit pooped. Being homesick can wreck havoc on you. Knowing how sore my muscles are my friends suggest a little "Thai" massage place right around the corner from them. I got home from my scene the other day so I walked over and they got me in right away.

I walked into this very unassuming door covered by a very thin bamboo looking blind. The small front window had linen covering the glass so patrons on the street could not "rally" see in. Steamers of blue blinking lights dangled from the ceiling adding interest and authenticity to the whole look. A tiny neon sign in the front window closest to the door blinked "open" walk in welcome". I have to admit I was a bit nervous. I always get a bit nervous for something new but in my more mature age I find the "new" more exciting than not. I walk in and the door jingles with Christmas like bells hanging above the door frame. I hear the scattering of little feet and a lot of movement in a prior very still room. Three Thai women not one over 4'9 greeted me with huge welcoming smiles. "can I help you?" They motioned for me to come further into the room. Pointing a the list of services on the wall they bent at the waist and smiled as if to say "choose what you would like." So I did!

I got a bit over excited with the options being that all I felt was sore. This was my chance to renew and relax. I had some time so I asked if I could do the 40 minute foot massage and then the 1 hour Thai/ swedish massage. A nod got people scurrying. I stood alone in the tiny room in the front of the parlor to wonder if I had offended. Luck for me I had not. My masseuse had run to the back to get the bucket of water to soak my feet. I was persuaded to have a  seat on a low cushioned bed covered by a few sheets and blankets. A woman was on the bed next to me, maybe 2 feet away… enjoying her foot massage. Apparently they do those right tree in the front lobby area. The only thing separating our massage beds from the seating "hallway" was a paper thin divider like the ones you see in Asian restaurants. I was wearing a comfy sweat outfit so she simply had me pull the pants up over my knees. She placed my feet in the wooden bucket lined with plastic and then got on the bed with me and began giving me a neck massage. OMG I was tight. For a minute there I was nervous I was going to be in worse shape then before I got there. This tiny little package of a woman had the strongest damn hands I had ever felt. She felt me body tense up and lightened up. From that point I on I began a journey to heaven….

Part 2 coming soon!

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Brandi

The west coast is treating me amazing. I arrived last week Tuesday and have been on set ever since:) I am a very satisfied woman. I gave a few details during my members only cumshaw this evening and will do so again in a few days after a few more adventures take place. Stay tuned it just keeps getting naughtier!

The only thing I struggle to balance while out in LA…. is all my other responsibilities. No biggie, LOL!  I get back from a day of shooting ( which can be any where from 4hrs to 12 hrs ) pretty tired. Even if my body feels energized my brain is done. If only I could get my body and mind on the same sleep cycle I think it would all work out. I will have to work on that.

Some of you may laugh at me, but I had a first this past week named…….. drum roll, FATBURGER! Wow I think it is a damn good thing that they do not exist in NC because I would be in trouble. It was delicious. I am pretty sure I am going to have to have one more before I go home. Keiran Lee and Kirsten Price are trying like hell to ween me off my ToGo's Santa Fe Chicken Wrap and they just might have managed to do so. Actually it is not even the Fatburger that did that. Kirsten is a mad chef…..the woman has skills.

Just to keep you guys up to date on some of my new treats ... I have a few new hot items up on my auction that you can view HERE. Once I return to the East coast I am going to stay put for a bit and focus all my attention to my site. I have tons of new pics and ids to get posted for you guys. I am also very much looking forward to my summertime fun at the pool and on the tennis courts. Enjoy your week, and remember "Dare To Be Deviant."

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Brandi

Like the title? I did too, LOL! What I am actually talking about is animals. Ever notice how when a woman sees a baby animal they melt and start talking baby talk. I do it and I see it everyday.  Michael and I we did some research because I was curious to see if there was any scientific research behind the why. As you guessed there is! Aside from the "typical" urge to nurture, women have a more serious need to be loved and needed for their nurturing ways. Men, "typically" have a more serious need to protect and provide in the non emotional sense. very vague but I would have to agree. When women's children leave the home they run and do what? get puppies and kittens. Men want to enjoy their new freedom and women want to immediately run back into the responsibility of a baby, LOL! Hilarious really but it is in our DNA. I am working hard on controlling such urges. I have loved having animals around me my whole life. As an adult, I have developed a new sense of the financial responsibility as well as constraints to things like travel and such… but I know I will always have a furball. Right now we have a  full house with 2 dogs and one cat. Our Puppy is just about house broken and really becoming part of the family. This is a great thing, but what feeling do I get in my gut? "Awe, look at that puppy, can we get a kitten?" I am learning to control my urges but I do not think they will ever go away. Luckily for me my hubby loves me enough to let me love the furies, and I love him enough to know when to stop bringing them home:)


On a sexy note, this has been an awesome week. I have had some insanely fun times on cam and look forward to tonight's members only live show. I have a fun and exciting theme planned. Come on in and check it out… tonight at 10:30PM est. Many of you may have noticed that I have revamped my STORE and have weekly updates. Don't see what you want? Email me for a custom DVD in which you direct the scene! It has been a very busy couple of months and the this month is proving no different. I am off to the beach for a few days to celebrate some Birthdays and then Looking to get back to Toronto. I am aiming to get back out to LA end of May early June. More updates to follow. Happy Humpday! and for a bit of eyecandy and to drop a vote in my corner please check me out here and here , thanks for all your support loves!

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Brandi

I must be lsoing my damn mind, I thought I posted these for you guys..... it's either my mond or my technology that is wonky and I am guessing it's my mind, LOL! Only one more year left in my 30's ... the mind is already going:( DANG! Well aside for having perfect weather while visiting down in FLorida, I had the pleasure of spending my B-day with some of the hottest, and sweetest women I know. I hung out with teh cast and crew of Girlfriend Films. They know me very well, aside from a few practical jokes, I received a Starbucks Gidt Card and mug... 2 of my favorite things:) Here are a few snap shots of Janet Mason , one of the hottest fit milfs I know. What do you guys think of our combo? *wink*

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Brandi

Knowing you guys the way I think I do…. this title got your attention * snicker * I wanted to share some incredibly hot pics with you guys form a DVD I shot a few months ago in LA. Some of you saw the live sex show I did with Manuel, now the DVD is out and you can pick it up HERE. I was super excited to see who I was on the DVD with. Check out these insanely gorgeous women.

I don't watch my own scenes but admittedly I am going to watch this one. It was definitely, well um… different *wink*

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Brandi

I hope you guys have enjoyed my video diaries from my on location shoot in Florida. I have had one of the best Birthday's ever. GF Films is such an incredibly company, and it is such because of it's amazing and fearless leader:) They have really become friends to me, way beyond any "work" situation. I am ampted up about my scene tomorrow. Someone I have wanted to shoot with for some time now. I will let you know AFTER it is official and I can give graphic details:) And boy are they going to be good.

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Brandi

What an awesome few weeks I have had. Many of you know I have a pretty big birthday right around the corner. March 29th marks the first day of the last year I have in my thirties. AM I ok with this? Actually… surprisingly yes. There are a few things that I could do without in regards to aging but for the most part, all is good. I plan on living life my way and to the fullest every day I am given wither in my 20's or my 90's :) Count on it!

Just to give you a peek into what I have been up to, aside from the daily updates at www.brandilove.com ….. check this out : XXXRAY  and MFHMS and there are a few more holding out for maybe next month. I will keep you posted to release dates.

I am actually going to be in Florida for my Birthday, not to shabby huh? My verso of the girls from Sex in the City is more like Having Sex in Florida thanks to Girlfriend Films. I am sooooooo looking forward to some sexy time with some of the hottest and sweetest women I have met. I will be sure to take tons of BTS pics to share with you guys.

This Friday make sure to login to my site to catch a super hot girl on girl members cumshaw. I have a  surprise treat for you guys along time in the works. I am not only going to be shooting some sizzling pics of my gorgeous bubble assed friend (you get to watch a photo set)  I am then going to join her naked on a bed for, well I don't know… I am sure I can think of something to do with her *wink* Have a  great week all and I hope to see you Friday around noon ( just click on LIVE cams in the tool bar above:)…..

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Brandi

This article was too good not to share:)

The top five regrets of the dying
A palliative nurse has recorded the top five regrets of the dying. Photograph: Montgomery Martin/Alamy

There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says, "common themes surfaced again and again."

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.

"This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

"Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

"Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2012/feb/01/top-five-regrets-of-the-dying

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Brandi